Being more likeable means you will get along better with your co-workers and your customers. Here are 10 simple ways to be more likeable today (adapted from an article from Time.com).
1. Ask questions.
People who ask questions are often well-liked. It’s human nature to be helpful and we all have a great desire to share what we know. When someone appears to need our help, we tend to like them more because we like being the one who provides the answers.
2. Talk more, not less.
One of the strongest traits of a friend and business owner is that he tends to talk constantly. You never have to guess what he’s thinking. He’s not blunt or rude, but he explains things in detail.
3. Give your time…gratis.
A no-strings-attached approach to helping others also makes you more likable. Of course, those who help just to be liked always reveal a manipulative trait, so make sure you’re genuine.
4. Listen better.
Talkers tend to be more likable, and that’s true. Sometimes, over-communicating puts people at ease. But it’s also important to pause once in a while and listen. Good communicators take a breath once in a while. Likable people are always listeners who are curious to (genuinely) learn new things. The best communicators talk and talk and then listen for a response. That makes them an office favorite.
5. Really and truly care.
How do you develop the personality trait of caring? It can be difficult, especially in an age of social media where everyone is dangerously close to being a narcissist. Caring is an act of setting aside your own interests and ambitions for a while and helping others. It requires effort. You have to consciously decide you are going to care about someone else. When you do, and you are genuine about it, you’ll find that more people will like you.
6. Admit it, you don’t know everything.
We all know how important it is to steer clear of the office know-it-all. Why is that? Part of the reason is we know that person won’t ask for our help, and we like to be helpful. More importantly, those who have all of the answers are usually pushing their own agenda. In their conceited attitude, they exhibit a sense of pride that’s not attractive to anyone.
7. Go for the laugh, every time.
It’s hard to hate a jokester or someone who has a carefree approach to life. Usually, the most-liked people are those that can fill a room with laughter. It might not be in your nature to joke around, and that’s okay. Just make sure you are ready to see the humor in something. Be someone who can laugh easily and smile often. You’ll win people over.
8. Lighten up.
It’s better to see the big picture in life. Really serious people are essentially acting selfish because they focus too much on their personal issues. Highly likable people at work are those who can set aside their concerns and go with the flow. They’re selfless.
9. Don’t be pushy.
This trait can be difficult trait to master. However, by being flexible and open to suggestions from others makes you more likable because you can adjust to the situation.
10. Admit your weaknesses.
It’s important not to act like a victim or share your problems with everyone you meet. At work, it’s okay to go into a meeting and lead with the challenges you face. People are more likely to suggest a few solutions, come to your aid, and even pat you on the back.